http://www.kaysdaughter.com To: Cancer, You can kiss my ARSE. All my best, Kaysdaughter Sat, 20 Sep 2008 19:30:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 http://www.kaysdaughter.com/?p=5&cpage=1#comment-132 Paula Sat, 20 Sep 2008 19:30:58 +0000 http://www.kaysdaughter.com/?p=5#comment-132 Elona, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I was lucky enough to have young children which forced me to at least get out of bed most days. Occasionally even now I spend a weekend in bed because its so hard to face another day without my mom. The only thing keeping me going some days is the fact that my mom would insist I go on, would insist I survive, would insist I do my best. Sometimes it makes me mad that she would want me to go on, and that keeps me going too. No real advice I'm sorry to say, except to ask you what your mom would want. My bet is she would want you to go on with life. She continues to live through you. Elona, I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I was lucky enough to have young children which forced me to at least get out of bed most days. Occasionally even now I spend a weekend in bed because its so hard to face another day without my mom. The only thing keeping me going some days is the fact that my mom would insist I go on, would insist I survive, would insist I do my best. Sometimes it makes me mad that she would want me to go on, and that keeps me going too. No real advice I’m sorry to say, except to ask you what your mom would want. My bet is she would want you to go on with life. She continues to live through you.

]]> http://www.kaysdaughter.com/?p=5&cpage=1#comment-129 Elona Mon, 15 Sep 2008 22:10:57 +0000 http://www.kaysdaughter.com/?p=5#comment-129 I just recently lost my mother to ovarian cancer, and feel like I lost myself as well. I cant seem to get out of "survival mode", even the basic functions of life, like grocery shopping, getting out of the house, taking a shower, or the worst of them all, getting out of bed seem unfathable. I dont know how to cope with my loss, and its ruining my life. Its as though I'm fighting my own little vietnam war in my head, complete with horrible flashbacks of the agony she went through. I've tried greif counsuling, and all they did was reffer me to a mental health clinic. I'm running out of options to get it together, and dont know what else to do. Do you have any advice? I just recently lost my mother to ovarian cancer, and feel like I lost myself as well. I cant seem to get out of “survival mode”, even the basic functions of life, like grocery shopping, getting out of the house, taking a shower, or the worst of them all, getting out of bed seem unfathable. I dont know how to cope with my loss, and its ruining my life. Its as though I’m fighting my own little vietnam war in my head, complete with horrible flashbacks of the agony she went through. I’ve tried greif counsuling, and all they did was reffer me to a mental health clinic. I’m running out of options to get it together, and dont know what else to do. Do you have any advice?

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